My Pregnancy Symptoms? How well do you know your body?

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So ever since i found out i was pregnant, girls have come to me asking me how i knew i was pregnant and what todo to find out if you are. I’ve had a lot of people message me, with their pregnancy scares and weird symptoms they’ve experienced wanting to know if it could be pregnancy or not. I even had one young lady message me and ask me how to get pregnant.. Yes. I know. Unfortunately she got no reply.

I’ve never been one to judge or spread rumors. So i think i was someone that people felt they could trust with questions like that, which was cool. But it really showed me how so many young women, know little to nothing about their bodies. Or how our cycles work. Now, given everyone is different and we won’t all experience the same things with our bodies but i think understanding the possibilities is something we should all do.

When i found out i was pregnant, it wasn’t from me experiencing any symptoms or noticing anything different. It was because i knew that my period was a day late, and decided to take a test. A lot of my symptoms didn’t come a long until later. But like i said it’s different for everyone! So just knowing the simple early pregnancy symptoms could potentially help you or someone you know.

One of the biggest symptoms i experienced and is very common, is morning sickness. I was sick all day, every day. I lost so much weight and it couldn’t eat anything. It was honestly pretty awful. And then because i was so sick all the time, i was so tired. My body was so weak and tired. That’s where i would say fatigue, was my next noticeable symptom which is also a very common one. Followed by fatigue i got pretty bad headaches which can be another symptom, but i wear contacts and glasses so it could have been from those. I just remember having bad headaches all day. Another very common early pregnancy symptom, is sensitive breast and/or darkened areola. But, your breast can also become sore or sensitive when you are on your period. So keep that in mind.

A lot of people will say you won’t crave stuff until later on in the pregnancy but that isn’t always true. Right before i found out i was pregnant i was craving white rice and tomatoes. Which isn’t to weird for me because i love those foods, but it was pretty random. So random food cravings can be a symptom for pregnancy! Along side those weird food cravings, i had terrible heart burn. Now this only really occurred for me later on in my pregnancy but you can have heart burn in early pregnancy, so don’t count it out. And the symptom that will haunt you and irritate you for the next nine months and even after, is urinating more often. I know it’s silly, but it really is a symptom for early pregnancy!

Now there are so many more symptoms that women will experience, but i did not experience these during early pregnancy so i don’t have much to say about them. Like, spotting, constipation, bloating, etc. It really is an endless list, and it’s different for every woman. So if you feel off, and you think you may be having some of these symptoms as well as there being a chance you could be pregnant, don’t feel scared to take a pregnancy test or go to your doctor. Some woman experience symptoms right away and some don’t for weeks. And even if there’s no way you’re pregnant or are trying to get pregnant, it’s a least good to know the symptoms!

I know this wasn’t super detailed with information, so if you’re curious to know more definitely go check out some websites! “The Bump”, is a great pregnancy app/website i used through my whole pregnancy. Helping me keep track of how fast baby was growing as well as a place i could ask questions and look stuff up. Catching pregnancy early on is much better for you and baby, as well as catching anything such as a sickness, disease, etc. early. Be aware of your body and if something seems off don’t be afraid to check it out!

NO, I didn’t take birth control!

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You weren’t on birth control?? Why didn’t you just take the birth control? Not taking birth control was a stupid decision.

A lot of things i often heard when i first found out i was pregnant. Not everyone will understand the reasons behind why someone makes the decisions they do, but the beauty in that, is the fact i don’t really care what you think because what i do doesn’t affect you.

Birth control is an awesome thing, and i think it should always be an option for any woman that wants it. But just because women are recommended to use it, doesn’t mean every woman wants to. And yes your doctors opinions and suggestions are super important and you should always consider them but no one knows your own body like you do. So do what is ultimately the best for you.

I started taking birth control when i was 13, because other than preventing pregnancy birth control has a lot of other benefits and can be used for many different purposes. From 13 till only a couple months ago, i have been on and off it countless times. One thing i’ve always noticed about birth control is it made me feel sick, physically i felt heavy or just not 100%. It also kept me in a bad mood, and on top of that did nothing for my periods. I’ve tried all kinds of different brands of BC, but nothing ever matched me. Because it’s hard to match that hormone level your body puts out as well as allowing or hoping your body reacts positively to the extra hormones and estrogen being put into your body every day.

Now i know a lot of girls live by birth control and that is awesome, i’m so happy that is an option for us. But i’m just not one of those people. When i found out i was pregnant never once did i wish i had been on birth control, because even with taking birth control there is still that 1% of getting pregnant. And that does and has happened to a lot of women before. If you lay down to have intercourse you have to acknowledge the fact there will aways be a chance you could get pregnant. So to lay down and do that, and sit there and think that could never happen to you is ignorant birth control or not.

Birth control isn’t always going to prevent a pregnancy, and Plan B pills don’t always work either. So it’s not smart to completely rely on that. So before you jump on someone who got pregnant and blame it on the fact they weren’t taking birth control, enlighten yourself on how often women get pregnant while on BC. Or just in general how one time can do it for you and next thing you know you’re pregnant.

Moral of this is, i hated the fact people told me i should of used birth control because i got pregnant as a teen. I hated that people knew nothing about my history with birth control, yet told me i was dumb for not using it. We live in a generation where so many people want woman to feel accepted and be able to make their own decisions. When almost all i got in response to me not using birth control, was that i was “stupid” or “immature”. Birth control, CAN be bad for some women. Birth control CAN hurt some women.

So no, BC isn’t always an option for women or maybe they don’t want it to be and that is fine!

How Do You Make Money From Home?

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The wonderful joys of being a stay at home mom, there’s so many! Although it may be hard sometimes, there’s nothing i wouldn’t trade it for. But one thing i’ve seen a lot of stay at home mom’s do, but haven’t quite figured it out myself are ways to make money online. I see a lot of mom selling things, getting paid from youtube, or even blogging!

It really is pretty cool that we live in a generation where stay at home mom’s can find ways to make some money from themselves without having to work a 9-5 and take care of a child. I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum, i’ve had a job. And then i’ve been the one at home doing the housework. If i got paid for being a stay at home mom, i’d live the life. Because there’s nothing better than staying home with my son, and getting the opportunity to watch him grow every day. But i hate not always being able to have my own money. I have an awesome fiance, who helps a lot but i think everyone enjoys making their own money. And who couldn’t always use an extra income?

We always see the commercials or advertisements talking about how to make money from home, but they always seem kinda sketchy to me. I have yet to talk to anyone real, that actually makes a income at home. So my blogging today is reaching out to those stay at home moms or just people who make their income offline, how do you do it? What are good way’s to start? What is a good option for someone like me? Because i’m sure so many other’s have this same question as well.

Is it a real reality, can it be done by just anyone? Or is that false advertisement. I highly doubt i’ll get any real comments on this. But please if you have any advice, i’m all ears!

The Problem With Sex Ed

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As a kid, I moved around a lot. So I got to see a lot of different schools, in different states. As well as how they all did programs differently.

At one of the schools I attended to longer than the others, they had a sex ed program in middle school called “Smart Girls.” Immediately that name is kinda offensive, you can be completely educated about sex and pregnancy but still get pregnant. To me it implies that if you get pregnant you aren’t smart. But what was really just so contradicting about this class, she really only talked about absence, STI’s and sometimes “The Pill.” Never did she talk about what could happen if you got pregnant or how you even really get pregnant.

Where this school is, is a very small, religious town. So it’s normal to hear about the Christian life style. Everyone Is very opinionated, and that’s fine. But you can’t be close-minded as teacher, especially when you teaching something like this to middle schoolers.

It was always “Don’t have sex. Sex before marriage is bad.” Which I can somewhat agree with, I am a Christian myself so I understand it. But you cannot preach, sex is bad, without talking about what sex really is.

And you have to assume not everyone believes the same things you do. I had sex before marriage, but I am Christian. So to force your beliefs on someone, is very unchristian like . Now obviously in middle school, when talking about stuff like this it was easier for us to just sit and listen. Because you don’t really have that independence to question the teacher or tell them you don’t really agree with what they teach, like you do in high school or college.

She made a lot of the girls in that class scared to talk about their experiences or if they were having sex or even just ask a question because it was such a sin. And personally that’s where she went wrong in a lot of our lives. Teachers are very impactful to young kids, especially when it comes to stuff like this. So you have to make sure what you are teaching is correct in the eyes of everyone, not just yourself.

Now a year later, I ended up moving to a bigger city and attending a bigger, more diverse school. And in Physical Ed, as a freshman you were required to take a Sex Ed class. Now I don’t really remember talking a whole lot about ‘sex’, so I assume they had some kind of program in their middle school as well. Because once you got to high school, they really talked about babies. And what drug and alcohol abuse can do to a unborn child. Then they gave you a fake baby to take care of for a weekend.

So I went from, “sex is bad” to “heres a baby don’t do drugs while pregnant”. So you can see where it can be very confusing for people, or hard for people to really understand that concept. I didn’t truly know how a woman body worked until I got pregnant, and went to all those Dr. appointment and then gave birth. And I believe that is something we should be teaching boys and girls about. Because once you have sex, that is the real reality.

Now I’m not talking about “what your parents should tell you,” because a lot of kids don’t have their parents to talk to them about this stuff. A lot of kids rely on school for a lot of things, and I think this being a life changing situation you should be able to count on schools to at least at some point talk about it. Now obviously I can’t speak for every school, but I do know there are faults in a lot of them. And I’ve read a lot of stories about teen moms and how they were never properly educated. They didn’t think that having sex one time, or having sex for only 5 minutes could be enough to get you pregnant when in reality that’s all it can take.

A problem we have as humans in this society, we are so quick to judge. We are so quick to defend that what we believe is right and it doesn’t matter because you are wrong. When that’s such an awful thing todo. No one, very rarely anyone will think exactly the way you do. Just be mindful of others, you never know what they’ve been through until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. And even most of the time, that’s not enough to understand the life of someone else.

When I found out I was pregnant at 17!

DISCLAIMER: I DO NOT condone teen pregnancy in anyway! If you are having sex at a young age, be careful and safe. DO NOT, go intentionally get pregnant as a teen. I am only sharing my story.

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When I was 17, I was dating this guy, we had known each other since we were kids and had been dating for a while. We lived about 45 minutes apart, but we were constantly driving back and forth whenever we could. I think every young relationship is special or fun at that age, but there will always be at least one you will always hold close to your heart. And for me, it was this one.

We were careful, but I was not on birth control. I’ve never reacted good towards birth control, it always made me sick, or overly hormonal and I am just not a fan. I don’t always feel it is the woman’s responsibility to make sure they are on birth control. Now I got a lot of crap when people in my boyfriends family found out I was pregnant, an that I hadn’t been on birth control. But I’ve never really cared, because it is my body. And I knowingly take the responsibility of what could come of that (a baby), I’ve always felt that way. Call me old fashioned.

It was the day after Christmas, the day after my missed period. I took a pregnancy test because it seemed like a better idea than just waiting for a period that was never going to come. It was positive! I just started crying, which I feel is a normal reaction. I called my sons father and told him, he didn’t seem upset which you would think an 18 year old boy would be. He however, was not. He promised me that I would never have todo it a lone. And comforted me the best he could over the phone.

After that phone call, he came and got me so we could talk about it In person. And one of our main worries was how we would tell our parents. Since I was with him, we eventually decided to tell his parents first.

This night was already a bad night. Originally my sons father told me I could stay with him. So I didn’t have my car with me to drive home and it was almost midnight, I knew if I went home in the middle of the night I would not only worry my parents but wake everyone in the house up and they would be mad at me. So going home was never an option in my mind. Well, his parent’s wanted me to go home that night. My sons father was not okay with that, him knowing I was pregnant he didn’t want us to be so far away from each other for to long. There was a lot of arguing over the phone, eventually it came down to having to tell his dad over text, because he was declining all the calls. Now at some point before all this, he did tell his mom. But I really can’t remember that, that well, but she already knew prior to this day. And knew while all this was going on, but wanted us to wait to tell his father when he was in a better mood. So she was not happy he told his dad that night, and over the phone.

Eventually they said just come home, we did. She yelled at us for what seemed like hours. I just cried. Then I became scared, that I was putting to much stress on the baby. And yes, that is dangerous for baby! So I kinda told her, I was done listening. And that was that. They not shortly after fell in love with their grandson!

A day or two later, we went to tell my parents. I was so nervous, because my moms opinion means the world to me. And the last thing I wanted to do was disappoint her. We all sat down in my bedroom and told her, she was so calm. She pretty much just said “Okay, well what are you going todo?” I was so confused but relieved at the same time. She said, “It’s your life, these are your adult decisions.” Moral of this, my family was much easier to tell. And everyone accepted it with open arms.

I am now engaged to my sons father and we have our own house working on making our lives better everyday. I wanted to share my story because when I became pregnant the most comforting thing was being able to read and to watch teen moms on Youtube talk about their experience. Being a teen mom, doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Being a teen mom isn’t something to be ashamed of. It is not easy by any means, but if I had the opportunity to change anything, I wouldn’t. Now not every love story ends happily and its even harder for teen parents, so don’t read any story and think it’s all sunshine and rainbows because that’s far from the case. But don’t be scared, and don’t feel like your life is over. Enjoy your pregnancy and your child, because some women will never get to.

-Morgan

My Beginning!

Hello everyone! Before I really jumped into starting my blog, I felt I should put a little bit more about me and why I decided to start this blog.

I am a teen mother, a stay at home mom, as well as a student. Throughout the day things get hard, somedays can be harder than others and it’s good to have an outlet. I want to be able to be a place for teen mothers or pregnant teens to go to if they resort to the internet for help. Because the things we find on the internet aren’t always helpful or true. In this case, everything I talk about will be from my personal experience as well as the things that I’ve learned as a mother.

Don’t feel like you have no one to go to, because there is always someone! I really hope this goes as planned and helps as many struggling teens or mothers as possible. I am just now getting the hang of this ‘blog’ thing, so I really hope you decide to join along and follow this journey with me!

-Morgan