Adjusting from one child, to two.

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When you have your first child although it can be scary, it’s full of excitement. It’s full of new adventures and endless love. The great thing about having your first little one, is the fact that it’s the first, there’s only one. No one really talks about what it’s like having two or more than one. You always hear how hard it can be, or how tired you will be. But honestly, when i had my first child. It was pretty easy compared to what it is like now, raising two babies.

The transition from one baby to two is pretty hard, or at least it was for me. Especially with breastfeeding. I have a one and a half year old and a now almost 2 month old baby. When my second child was born, after we got home it was so hard for me to adjust for a couple different reasons. Breastfeeding is very painful at first, and it’s super demanding. You have to constantly sit down every 2-3 hours and feed baby or pump and hope that your toddler is satisfied or distracted until you’re done. Breastfeeding is also painful every time at first. It also makes your body cramp, and for me after having my second child, the cramps were unearthly painful. I really didn’t think i could continue to breastfeed because i was in so much pain. Both of those things combine, on top of not getting any sleep, and having to chase a toddler around after just having a baby made my world chaos.

I really though for a couple of weeks that i was going to lose my mind, it was the first time ever that i had felt completely defeated regarding motherhood. I was so upset and tired, really questioning myself and if i was able todo this. As if i had any choice, haha. But it was really hard for me for awhile. Eventually i adjusted to the loss of sleep, breastfeeding became easier and the cramping stopped. It was still hard because the schedule i had with my toddler was out the door. He wasn’t napping, didn’t want to sleep in his crib, and i felt absolutely awful for the fact i could no longer give him all my attention. I was heartbroken. Because i knew he just wanted the attention. Which made it even harder to reenforce the schedule.

Right now, after adjusting things still get hard. I still have my mini breakdowns and i still stress out from time to time. At first it was figuring out how to balance two children, and now i’m trying to make those little times for me to regroup. Like taking a shower alone, or riding to town alone, or just walking to the mailbox alone. Just to give me that short amount of time to breath. It’s important to have that. Mother’s and father’s need that. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for needing a second to just breath.

Having children is really an amazing thing, it’s a beautiful experience. But no one prepared me for the adjustment of a second child and having them close together didn’t make it easier. And i’m still learning, it’s still hard. Time is now divided, i get very little time to myself, if any at all. Dishes don’t get done right away, laundry sits awhile before it gets folded, toys may sit on the floor a little longer, and the list goes on. But i really couldn’t imagine my life any other way. When times get hard, when i feel like i’m at my breaking point i just remember they are only little once. And i know before i even realize it, that this time will be gone.

So to all those stressed momma’s out there, ones who are going through this, who are about to, let your toddler crawl in the bed with you. Hold that newborn a little longer. Enjoy watching your toddler run around playing with everything they can get their hands on. Because as hard as it might be in that moment, it will end. You’ll find time for a little break. And everything will be okay. Although having another child, is an adjustment and can be hard it’s such a blessing.

Seven symptoms you should know about pregnancy! What i experienced!

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I am a teen mom, i got pregnant with my son when i was 17 years old. So finding out for me was a huge surprise. After i found out i was pregnant, a lot of girls would ask me questions or advice. Not knowing what the symptoms of pregnancy are, or how they could even get pregnant. So i want to list a couple!

I found out i was pregnant either Christmas eve or Christmas, I woke up and took a pregnancy test and it came back positive. I was in complete shock, because i wasn’t expecting it. The only reason i was able to know when to test, or if i should even test is because i tracked my period. I wasn’t on birth control, i hated how it made me feel. So because of that i wanted to pay more attention to when my periods were supposed to come.

So my first “symptom” was a missed period. Now i know that for most women/girls, they are worried and wanting to know way before their period is even supposed to come. But because i had never been pregnant, i wasn’t really aware of what signs to even be looking out for. This should be the biggest red flag, if you aren’t sure of anything else!

After my missed period is when the real symptoms followed. A huge sign of pregnancy is morning sickness. Now most people think morning sickness is only in the morning, hence the name. No. Morning sickness can last all day, it can be all night. It’s different for everyone, but most of the time if you have morning sickness it’s all day. It was so awful for me, had i not been tracking my period the morning sickness i had would have defiantly been a big indicator for pregnancy.

What followed the morning sickness was food aversions, nothing sounded good. And if it did, the second it was put in front of my face i was on the verge of throwing up. I lost so much weight in the first trimester because of these two. Now keep in mind, for some women morning sickness and food aversions may never happen. But these two symptoms are very common, especially in the first trimester.

Now another symptom some women may or may not have is tender breast. I defiantly did. But i was also an athlete and thought maybe my sports bras were to tight or it was just my period coming. Which is a common mistake women make. A lot of pregnancy symptoms are nearly identical to period symptoms, that’s why some women don’t notice them at all. If you do have tender breast, make sure you’re aware of how long it last. If it last for more than a couple days to a week, it’s better safe than sorry that you take that pregnancy test.

These were the first four were big ones in my first pregnancy, and if you have read my other blogs, you may know i am pregnant with my second baby! And i was even on birth control this time, haha. And i had NONE of the symptoms i previously listed. But i knew something was off, when i had a lot of gas. Now this one might be gross but it’s true. One day i had crazy gas, i knew something was off because that is not a problem i normally have. I thought maybe it was something i ate, but after some research i found out it is or can be a sign of pregnancy. Your uterus expanding for the baby, causing you to have gas. But even then i still didn’t think i was pregnant. I took a few pregnancy tests, more than one over a course of a few days and they were all negative.

I still kept an eye out for things until i was supposed to get my period, but after a couple days to a week i started having awful hot flashes followed by small cramps. I still thought it was just something i ate, or maybe i was just having a bad day. They lasted all day long, until i decided to go get a pregnancy test and take one. Surely enough, it was positive. I was very early, but the test somehow picked up the hormones. My second pregnancy has been completely different from the first, so if you don’t have the same symptoms as i did or as the internet says that doesn’t mean you’re not pregnant. Everyones body reacts differently! So make sure you are keeping up with yourself and your sex life!

And remember if you are trying to get pregnant or think you might be, make sure you wait the recommended time before you take a test because if you take it to early it will be negative even if you are pregnant. And even then, sometimes you have to go to the Doctors and get a blood test done for them to be able to see if you are pregnant or not. Like i said everyone has different symptoms and everyone will have a different experience, so make sure you pay attention to your body! I hoped this helped and i hope everyone out there is being safe and smart!

A Christmas Reminder!

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It’s November and we all know what that means, the holidays are approaching! Holidays with babies, toddlers and especially kiddies can be so much fun.

We like to keep Christmas alive with holiday traditions and time spent with family. Every year, ever since i was a little girl someone in my family made Santa and Christmas come to life! Whether it would be dressing up as Santa and running around the house, calling the phones pretending to be Santa, or tracking Santa online. Christmas was alway so special to me, the house full of decorations, the games we would play, the Christmas songs we would sing every year, and just the warm nights spent with family.

As Christmas gets closer, i want to restore the fact that Christmas isn’t just about gifts. It’s about Jesus, the baby in the manger. And if you aren’t a religious person, it is a special time to spend with family regardless.

If you do have kiddies, please make Christmas as special as you can. Not everyone has the means to buy countless gifts, but the memories are what these kids will keep with them forever. I’ll tell ya, i can’t remember what i got on Christmas as a child but i do remember all the fun things we did together as a family. I was so blessed to have a family who made Christmas so fun and special for me, i get to now do that for my younger siblings and my own children. There is nothing like making memories with your family. Moments you know you will hold close forever.

I know Christmas can be stressful, so to those parents out there who maybe can’t afford the biggest Christmas this year, that is OKAY! Just make it fun, make memories and enjoy the time you have with your family. Because soon enough, those babies won’t be babies anymore. Santa won’t be real and all you will have, are those memories.

So remember, enjoy Christmas. Spend time with your family. And make it fun! I hope everyone has happy holidays!

A stressed mom/student..

As a mother who is also a student, i find it hard to always find a good or helpful balance between parenting and finding the time to be a good student.

It is 11:48pm and i am studying for a test i have at 10:30am tomorrow morning, stressing about passing so i don’t have to take it again. Being a student and a parent at the same time is a very hard thing todo, is it impossible? No. But it defiantly takes a person with a lot of self control. I find myself half studying a majority of the time, and saying “well if i pass, i pass” but i know if i fail and have to retake the exam it will only set me back. And that is the most hurtful thing to my time.

I wonder constantly about ways that could help me balance the two. But when my LO is sleeping i am doing house work. And it’s only after my fiancé get’s home that i get that i am able to give studying my undivided attention. But then i struggle with a break, who want’s to spend all their time constantly going? I need to know all the information for my tests, or be able to take this practice test but i can only do it in a room by myself in complete silence but every parent know’s that is just nonexistent when you have children, especially toddlers.

For all my mother’s or father’s out there, who are also full time students where do you find the time? How do you find that balance, between your child, your home, your schoolwork and yourself? There has to be a schedule or tricks that help to make these schedules easier.

People think that stay at home parents and students don’t have it as hard as working people, but in some way’s it’s harder. And no, not every stay at home parent or student is just sitting around and not doing anything all day. Then both consist of a lot of attention and time, especially when you are doing both. Stop shaming parent’s for not working, stop shaming students for being students and stop making it seem impossible for the parent’s that are trying to better their education while taking on everything else. All we need are ways to make it a little more easier, or less stressful i should say.

Being a woman, can be uncomfortable..

As a young woman, i find i face a lot of uncomfortable issues. I find that many woman face scary situations everyday, whether they be little things or very serious things. Woman of all ages are targeted constantly, and men and children are too. But i can only speak for women, specially young women. Because i am one.

I know everyone faces their own issues, i know there are things men and other people may face that i do not. But i wanted to shed some light on a few things. In our world, in 2019, the amount of awful things that are happening to people of all ages and races is heartbreaking. We are constantly reading about children being kidnapped, women being raped, or people being beaten for no reason and the list goes on. It is truly awful, and what makes it even harder to deal with is, no matter how many laws we have or how many consequences are given out these awful things will never stop happening.

And because of that you always have to stay alert. You always have to be aware of your surroundings, and what is going on. And honestly that sucks. I hate going to the store alone, or with my one year old because i know i have less of a chance to defend myself or my child, than my husband would. I hate driving to far away from town or where i know there will be no service because i don’t want to be stuck somewhere helpless.

As a mother, i am very protective. And as a woman i am so paranoid. I don’t go anywhere without being “checked out” or stared at. The second i see a grown man standing a little to close or maybe starring just a little to long, i immediately get uncomfortable. And honestly that is such a crappy way to feel, almost all the time. I love to be independent. And go shopping by myself or run some errands by myself. But really sometimes, the uncomfortableness of just how awful the world is becoming, ruins that for me. And i could get an uncomfortable vibe from someone, and they could be the sweetest person ever. But in today, it is so hard to not judge by actions, even the little ones. Now when i say judge, i don’t mean i am constantly doing it. When i go out for errands, i normally don’t pay attention to anyone else. But there are some situations it’s almost impossible to not be uncomfortable in.

I don’t want to offend anyone, but sometimes men can be more intimating. Honestly i am more worried about a man, than i would be a woman. Now please acknowledge there are still awful women in the world, women that will and do take advantage of people everyday. But speaking from personal experience, i’ve never had any uncomfortable, creepy situations with a woman but i have with a man.

Like i said earlier, i have never been anywhere that a man hasn’t starred at me or “checked me out” and it is an uncomfortable thing. I’ve dealt with that ever since i was a little girl. Being only 12 years old and being whistled at, or all through my teenage years and even now being catcalled, followed, grabbed. Not being able to wear clothing i wanted to wear because i didn’t want to be starred at. Or i didn’t want to end up a victim. Having to be very careful with the information you give someone. Being scared to share my last name, or my phone number. It’s a scary thing and it is a very uncomfortable thing. I know where you live really makes a difference when it comes to these things, but some people don’t realize it can happen in homes, in schools, at work places you should feel safe are invaded. And it can happen ANYWHERE. I wish i could speak more for the young men that have faced these issues, or the adults or the children. But i can’t, i can only truthfully speak for myself. So know that i am not, ignoring those issues. They are just as important.

I am writing this blog today, something completely different from the stuff i usually talk about because i don’t want people to forget, this is happening. I want the parents of that little girl or boy, to remember the dangers in the world. I am one of those people who hate reading intense headlines, or gory articles because i hate to know these things really are happening. But i also want to be real with myself, and my family by knowing the real dangers and how to prevent them. I hope if you read this whole blog, it helped or maybe awoken a perception you didn’t have before. I hope you be more careful with yourself, your family and your kids. It can really help to recognize an uncomfortable situation before it becomes much more than that.

Crazy Lady Freaks Out over a Teen Mom?!

One of the most wonderful things about parenthood is there is no “right way” todo it, as long as it works for you and your kids. There’s so many opinions, myths, and do’s and don’ts. But really as long as it works for you and it’s safe for your kids who cares what anyone else thinks!

As a young mother people who don’t know you, assume you must have absolutely no idea what you’re doing. And then even sometimes people who DO know you, think you need all 105 of their opinions. And with that follows all kinds of opinions and people telling you what you’re doing is wrong. And it’s hard to always keep your composure and ignore those people. Well i’m here to tell all those first time moms, it’s okay to parent YOUR way. It’s okay to ask for help, to take advice OR it’s OKAY to ignore all the opinions that get thrown your way.

As long as your child is taken care of, fed and clothed you won’t ever hear me throwing out opinions UNLESS someone asks. Which is what a lot of other people should be doing, now don’t read this and think if a child is being hurt, is in danger, or being neglected you should just keep to yourself. Most defiantly speak up!

I watched a video about an incident that happened the other day involving a teen mother of two. Her whole family took a trip to the grocery store. She sat in the backseat of the car with her infant and toddler while her husband went inside to shop for groceries. She posted pictures of what her car looked like and what she looked like sitting in the back seat with the two children. You can clearly see through the windows of the car, as there is no tint. You could clearly see the car was on and she states many times to the security that came to check on her multiple times that she was fine and the A/C was on.

But because this girl didn’t look 30 or older, the woman assumed she was a child and that her and the other two babies were trapped in the car with the A/C off. She was causing a huge scene in the store, even after she was told the kids and the woman in the car were fine. She then proceeds to call the police. After she was told the woman in the car was the mother of the two children, she pulled out her phone and started to video yelling that they were bad parents. How were they being bad parents? Not really sure. How do you even react to a situation like that? Especially when you sit in your car with your children to make the shopping trip easier? But instead you get a crazy lady causing a scene for her facebook page.

The woman never walked up to the car she stood from afar and spied on the car. If i see children in danger, locked in a car, with no A/C i’m not going to stand from afar and wait for someone else todo something about it. She didn’t even bother asking the woman IN the car (the mother) if she was okay or needed help. If you see someone that is in danger, or think someone is in danger always do what you can to help. But even AFTER security told her multiples times that they were fine she continued to act insane. The cops arrived and nothing happened after that because they confirmed the lady was crazy and it was a waste of a 911 call. Not only did she upset that mother, she made herself look like fool and most importantly wasted a 911 call that could of taken time and officers away from a real life threatening situation.

Now i know if i saw kids, especially babies sitting in a car i would double check to make sure there was an adult or an older sibling in the car with them. Because to many children are dying in cars. But sometimes you have to swallow your pride and admit you’re wrong. If she was truly worried about the safety of the people in the car after she saw they were okay, and/or was told by the security who checked on them multiple times and talked to the mother in the car, that they were okay. I would go on with my day.

Moms, please don’t let situations like this get to you. There really are people in this world who have nothing better todo than cause a scene for attention or views online. Put your kids first and never let anyone make you feel like you are bad parent. I don’t know what i would of even done in this situation, and i hope the young mother isn’t to bothered by it either. Just be respectful of others.

*DISCLAIMER*

If you see a child(ren) locked in a car, Please do what you can to help them. Call 911.

If you see someone in danger, Please do what you can to help them. Call 911.

Helping someone who truly needs it, is NOT being nosy.

Re-find Yourself! Have you taken a break lately?

Do you ever have such a huge event happen in your life, and you find yourself taking a break from everything just so you can enjoy that “thing”? Haha, well that’s what i did. Oops.

I found out a little bit ago, that i am pregnant, again. I know, it’s always great to get news like that and you want to share and tell everyone and post about it. But i wanted to enjoy this. It was such a surprise that i didn’t even know how to react but when it finally started to become a reality for me, the only thing i knew for sure was i wanted me and my Husband and our son to enjoy it as a family. When i got pregnant the first time, there was no excitement. I was 18 and still in high school. It was nothing but fear and worry. So i wanted to really enjoy this news this time. We haven’t even announced it yet, but i’m not worried anyone will find it on my blog. Haha, but don’t tell anyone.

It made me realize, everyone is so caught up in our day to day lives. Some of us follow such a schedule or are constantly going and doing, we never stop and take a minute to enjoy the beautiful and wonderful things in life. I needed a break, i needed to be able to enjoy this little secret of ours. I needed to be able to stop and take a minute to thank God for the little things in life we often take for granted. We wake up and go about our day as if there was no chance we could of woken up without a loved one, or without food/water, or whatever it is we think we are granted everyday. Maybe you don’t believe in God, maybe you do. But be thankful, just in general that you woke up today with all the things you went to bed with. I know that, that can be such a cheesy thing to think about, but it’s true. We aren’t guaranteed tomorrow, we aren’t guaranteed next week, so be thankful for everyday you wake up. Because as small as a thing that might seem, you never know when could be your last day or someone you love.

We wake up constantly thinking about our problems, all the things i have to get done, the bills, or at least i do. And i find myself very rarely stopping to just be thankful i woke up today, that i get to stay home with my son and bond with him and watch him grow. That i get to have constant food, and luxuries such as my phone and social media.

We as humans need time to ourselves, it’s so easy to get lost in this society and work, and routines.

So whatever you’re doing tomorrow, or even right now. Take that day to yourself, or maybe just a couple hours to yourself. Do some soul searching. Do what makes you truly happy. Spend time with your family and/or friends. While life is busy and our schedules are important, our mental health is as important as well. Our happiness is what makes our lives so much better. Our humbleness helps us to appreciate more. And our love is what keeps everyone together.

Take some day(s) off
Spend time with your family and friends
Have some ALONE time
Be appreciative for the things you have, even if it’s just to yourself
Humble yourself
Help someone
Help the Earth
And most importantly LOVE

Do whatever it is that makes you feel human again, that makes you love the life you live and all the amazing people in it. It’s so amazing to find that part of you again!

1st Birthdays!

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My sons first birthday is next month, i’m excited because it is his first birthday and it felt like this time has just flown by so it’s exciting to celebrate how much he has grown. With me having some baby siblings i’ve attended some first birthdays and everyone does it differently. The first birthday is pretty much for the parents, and the family as your LO doesn’t really know or care about what is going on. But as he has grown bigger, he is in need of some new things. So instead of just buying here and there i figured i would get them a birthday gifts. So i do plan on getting him some gifts.

I’m not sure if i want to throw a big party and invite friends and family, go out some where or just have a family birthday party.

There’s all kinds of fun ideas, but i see no point in spending hundreds of dollars on something he won’t even remember. I want it to be fun, i want him to kind of understand or know that, that day is special for him.

What are some good ideas? How did you celebrate your LO’s 1st birthday?

I think people take the first birthday party for granted, no your LO won’t remember much or any at all so you really shouldn’t spend hundreds of dollars, but it is a special day for the parent’s and the family and when they get older they will get to hear those stories, and those memories, and see those pictures. You don’t have to throw a big party or buy lots of gifts for it to be special. When it turns into it being all about those things, it loses how special it is. Because it’s about them and how you treat them, 1 year old or 50. That day should be special.

Comment down below if you guys have any fun ideas, or what you have done for your LO’s first birthday!

Is your LO, TEETHING??

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Hello mommas, and/or dads! Is you baby teething and you aren’t sure what todo? No worry! Neither do have of us parents!

I have a almost 11 month old son, he started teething around six months and that’s defiantly when it was the worst. He was cutting teeth on the bottom and he was in some real pain. We tried everything, but he was still up all night crying.

Now all babies are not the same, so not every trick will work for your LO. But it never hurts to try. The first thing i got was the Nuby All Natural Teething Gel, it worked good. But it would only last for so long. After that i started to give him Infant Tylenol, and that helped a lot! But i didn’t want to be giving him Tylenol all day long, so I also bought The Nuby All Natural, Teething Tablets. These are also awesome, and you really can’t give them to much. They are easy to give the babies and they really do help.

My son never really liked teething rings a whole lot, but some babies love them. So defiantly try some of those. Leave them in the fridge for a couple hours, let them get cold and sometimes they will work wonders. We also bought a lot of teething toys with bumpy edges, those really helped us. He loved to naw on them, they really helped! I just don’t think my son was a fan of the cold. Haha.

And a scary part of teething, my son would not eat, i guess it hurt to suck on the bottle. So if your LO isn’t eating, don’t freak out. If they are old enough for baby food, spoon feed them that. That’s what we had todo. But if they aren’t just let them drink from the bottle as much as they will. Do not let your baby not eat, that is not healthy for them.

Pop-sickles and cold, yummy things they can suck on or chew on help a lot. It will distract them and also numb the pain. We always have a pack of pop-sickles in the fridge just incase. It’s also smart to keep some pacifiers in the fridge or freezer for your LO to suck on. And honestly some babies don’t want a teether, or a pacifier. Sometimes my son just wanted to chew on something soft, a t-shirt, blanket, towel, etc. So maybe have one on standby as well.

Teething is no joke, for you or baby! And somethings may help and somethings may not. But please don’t let your LO, sit in pain. It WILL get better. Just remember they don’t want to keep you up all night, they don’t want to keep you from sleeping, they are just hurting and sometimes the only soothing thing is their momma. So make sure to hold your LO close and give them all the love possible!

Thank You Cameron Boyce, Rest In Peace.

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I’m sure as many of you know Cameron Boyce, only 20 years old, passed away the other night due to having a seizure in his sleep. I’m not sure of all the details because they only release so much information as respect for the family and friends, which is completely understandable.

Our generation grew up with him, watching him on Disney and seeing him grow in all the Tv shows and movies he played in. He was so fun to watch and such an amazing actor. Obviously i didn’t know him very well, so my word can only go so far. But it is a sad thing to know someone you looked up to as a kid, and grew with as a kid is no longer around. It’s sad to hear about anyone passing away, but this one just hit harder than others. It almost doesn’t even seem real.

People wake up and go to bed thinking they will live to see tomorrow, and that isn’t the case for everyone. Our loved ones, and even ourselves can be gone in a blink of an eye. And we take this time we have for granted. Hearing about stuff like this, makes me so emotional and makes me want to hug my family a little longer. I think we often forget we aren’t owed tomorrow, we aren’t promised next week. And yes even, the people we see on tv, and the celebrities we love are humans that are living this life just like us. They have medical conditions and they have problems and issues. They have insecurities and feelings.

I wish that this world wasn’t so fast, that time didn’t fly by and we could savor every moment. I wish we were promised everyday and we could live happy and worry free. But unfortunately that is not what we have. And whether we think about it or not, any day could be our last. It stinks it takes such awful things to happen for us to realize the reality of things sometimes. But i thank Cameron Boyce making me see that again, and i thank him for all the laughs and happiness he gave me as a child. I thank him for always being kind, and sweet and never changing who he really is. He may have died young, but he left a good footprint on this earth. And he is in a much better place now.

Don’t let something so awful as this make you realize how special your family is. How special your life is. Hug your loved ones, because you never know what day might be their last.

Rest In Peace Cameron.