Tag: School

A stressed mom/student..

As a mother who is also a student, i find it hard to always find a good or helpful balance between parenting and finding the time to be a good student.

It is 11:48pm and i am studying for a test i have at 10:30am tomorrow morning, stressing about passing so i don’t have to take it again. Being a student and a parent at the same time is a very hard thing todo, is it impossible? No. But it defiantly takes a person with a lot of self control. I find myself half studying a majority of the time, and saying “well if i pass, i pass” but i know if i fail and have to retake the exam it will only set me back. And that is the most hurtful thing to my time.

I wonder constantly about ways that could help me balance the two. But when my LO is sleeping i am doing house work. And it’s only after my fiancé get’s home that i get that i am able to give studying my undivided attention. But then i struggle with a break, who want’s to spend all their time constantly going? I need to know all the information for my tests, or be able to take this practice test but i can only do it in a room by myself in complete silence but every parent know’s that is just nonexistent when you have children, especially toddlers.

For all my mother’s or father’s out there, who are also full time students where do you find the time? How do you find that balance, between your child, your home, your schoolwork and yourself? There has to be a schedule or tricks that help to make these schedules easier.

People think that stay at home parents and students don’t have it as hard as working people, but in some way’s it’s harder. And no, not every stay at home parent or student is just sitting around and not doing anything all day. Then both consist of a lot of attention and time, especially when you are doing both. Stop shaming parent’s for not working, stop shaming students for being students and stop making it seem impossible for the parent’s that are trying to better their education while taking on everything else. All we need are ways to make it a little more easier, or less stressful i should say.

The Problem With Sex Ed

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As a kid, I moved around a lot. So I got to see a lot of different schools, in different states. As well as how they all did programs differently.

At one of the schools I attended to longer than the others, they had a sex ed program in middle school called “Smart Girls.” Immediately that name is kinda offensive, you can be completely educated about sex and pregnancy but still get pregnant. To me it implies that if you get pregnant you aren’t smart. But what was really just so contradicting about this class, she really only talked about absence, STI’s and sometimes “The Pill.” Never did she talk about what could happen if you got pregnant or how you even really get pregnant.

Where this school is, is a very small, religious town. So it’s normal to hear about the Christian life style. Everyone Is very opinionated, and that’s fine. But you can’t be close-minded as teacher, especially when you teaching something like this to middle schoolers.

It was always “Don’t have sex. Sex before marriage is bad.” Which I can somewhat agree with, I am a Christian myself so I understand it. But you cannot preach, sex is bad, without talking about what sex really is.

And you have to assume not everyone believes the same things you do. I had sex before marriage, but I am Christian. So to force your beliefs on someone, is very unchristian like . Now obviously in middle school, when talking about stuff like this it was easier for us to just sit and listen. Because you don’t really have that independence to question the teacher or tell them you don’t really agree with what they teach, like you do in high school or college.

She made a lot of the girls in that class scared to talk about their experiences or if they were having sex or even just ask a question because it was such a sin. And personally that’s where she went wrong in a lot of our lives. Teachers are very impactful to young kids, especially when it comes to stuff like this. So you have to make sure what you are teaching is correct in the eyes of everyone, not just yourself.

Now a year later, I ended up moving to a bigger city and attending a bigger, more diverse school. And in Physical Ed, as a freshman you were required to take a Sex Ed class. Now I don’t really remember talking a whole lot about ‘sex’, so I assume they had some kind of program in their middle school as well. Because once you got to high school, they really talked about babies. And what drug and alcohol abuse can do to a unborn child. Then they gave you a fake baby to take care of for a weekend.

So I went from, “sex is bad” to “heres a baby don’t do drugs while pregnant”. So you can see where it can be very confusing for people, or hard for people to really understand that concept. I didn’t truly know how a woman body worked until I got pregnant, and went to all those Dr. appointment and then gave birth. And I believe that is something we should be teaching boys and girls about. Because once you have sex, that is the real reality.

Now I’m not talking about “what your parents should tell you,” because a lot of kids don’t have their parents to talk to them about this stuff. A lot of kids rely on school for a lot of things, and I think this being a life changing situation you should be able to count on schools to at least at some point talk about it. Now obviously I can’t speak for every school, but I do know there are faults in a lot of them. And I’ve read a lot of stories about teen moms and how they were never properly educated. They didn’t think that having sex one time, or having sex for only 5 minutes could be enough to get you pregnant when in reality that’s all it can take.

A problem we have as humans in this society, we are so quick to judge. We are so quick to defend that what we believe is right and it doesn’t matter because you are wrong. When that’s such an awful thing todo. No one, very rarely anyone will think exactly the way you do. Just be mindful of others, you never know what they’ve been through until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. And even most of the time, that’s not enough to understand the life of someone else.