Tag: parenting

A stressed mom/student..

As a mother who is also a student, i find it hard to always find a good or helpful balance between parenting and finding the time to be a good student.

It is 11:48pm and i am studying for a test i have at 10:30am tomorrow morning, stressing about passing so i don’t have to take it again. Being a student and a parent at the same time is a very hard thing todo, is it impossible? No. But it defiantly takes a person with a lot of self control. I find myself half studying a majority of the time, and saying “well if i pass, i pass” but i know if i fail and have to retake the exam it will only set me back. And that is the most hurtful thing to my time.

I wonder constantly about ways that could help me balance the two. But when my LO is sleeping i am doing house work. And it’s only after my fiancé get’s home that i get that i am able to give studying my undivided attention. But then i struggle with a break, who want’s to spend all their time constantly going? I need to know all the information for my tests, or be able to take this practice test but i can only do it in a room by myself in complete silence but every parent know’s that is just nonexistent when you have children, especially toddlers.

For all my mother’s or father’s out there, who are also full time students where do you find the time? How do you find that balance, between your child, your home, your schoolwork and yourself? There has to be a schedule or tricks that help to make these schedules easier.

People think that stay at home parents and students don’t have it as hard as working people, but in some way’s it’s harder. And no, not every stay at home parent or student is just sitting around and not doing anything all day. Then both consist of a lot of attention and time, especially when you are doing both. Stop shaming parent’s for not working, stop shaming students for being students and stop making it seem impossible for the parent’s that are trying to better their education while taking on everything else. All we need are ways to make it a little more easier, or less stressful i should say.

Crazy Lady Freaks Out over a Teen Mom?!

One of the most wonderful things about parenthood is there is no “right way” todo it, as long as it works for you and your kids. There’s so many opinions, myths, and do’s and don’ts. But really as long as it works for you and it’s safe for your kids who cares what anyone else thinks!

As a young mother people who don’t know you, assume you must have absolutely no idea what you’re doing. And then even sometimes people who DO know you, think you need all 105 of their opinions. And with that follows all kinds of opinions and people telling you what you’re doing is wrong. And it’s hard to always keep your composure and ignore those people. Well i’m here to tell all those first time moms, it’s okay to parent YOUR way. It’s okay to ask for help, to take advice OR it’s OKAY to ignore all the opinions that get thrown your way.

As long as your child is taken care of, fed and clothed you won’t ever hear me throwing out opinions UNLESS someone asks. Which is what a lot of other people should be doing, now don’t read this and think if a child is being hurt, is in danger, or being neglected you should just keep to yourself. Most defiantly speak up!

I watched a video about an incident that happened the other day involving a teen mother of two. Her whole family took a trip to the grocery store. She sat in the backseat of the car with her infant and toddler while her husband went inside to shop for groceries. She posted pictures of what her car looked like and what she looked like sitting in the back seat with the two children. You can clearly see through the windows of the car, as there is no tint. You could clearly see the car was on and she states many times to the security that came to check on her multiple times that she was fine and the A/C was on.

But because this girl didn’t look 30 or older, the woman assumed she was a child and that her and the other two babies were trapped in the car with the A/C off. She was causing a huge scene in the store, even after she was told the kids and the woman in the car were fine. She then proceeds to call the police. After she was told the woman in the car was the mother of the two children, she pulled out her phone and started to video yelling that they were bad parents. How were they being bad parents? Not really sure. How do you even react to a situation like that? Especially when you sit in your car with your children to make the shopping trip easier? But instead you get a crazy lady causing a scene for her facebook page.

The woman never walked up to the car she stood from afar and spied on the car. If i see children in danger, locked in a car, with no A/C i’m not going to stand from afar and wait for someone else todo something about it. She didn’t even bother asking the woman IN the car (the mother) if she was okay or needed help. If you see someone that is in danger, or think someone is in danger always do what you can to help. But even AFTER security told her multiples times that they were fine she continued to act insane. The cops arrived and nothing happened after that because they confirmed the lady was crazy and it was a waste of a 911 call. Not only did she upset that mother, she made herself look like fool and most importantly wasted a 911 call that could of taken time and officers away from a real life threatening situation.

Now i know if i saw kids, especially babies sitting in a car i would double check to make sure there was an adult or an older sibling in the car with them. Because to many children are dying in cars. But sometimes you have to swallow your pride and admit you’re wrong. If she was truly worried about the safety of the people in the car after she saw they were okay, and/or was told by the security who checked on them multiple times and talked to the mother in the car, that they were okay. I would go on with my day.

Moms, please don’t let situations like this get to you. There really are people in this world who have nothing better todo than cause a scene for attention or views online. Put your kids first and never let anyone make you feel like you are bad parent. I don’t know what i would of even done in this situation, and i hope the young mother isn’t to bothered by it either. Just be respectful of others.

*DISCLAIMER*

If you see a child(ren) locked in a car, Please do what you can to help them. Call 911.

If you see someone in danger, Please do what you can to help them. Call 911.

Helping someone who truly needs it, is NOT being nosy.