Tag: Life

Re-find Yourself! Have you taken a break lately?

Do you ever have such a huge event happen in your life, and you find yourself taking a break from everything just so you can enjoy that “thing”? Haha, well that’s what i did. Oops.

I found out a little bit ago, that i am pregnant, again. I know, it’s always great to get news like that and you want to share and tell everyone and post about it. But i wanted to enjoy this. It was such a surprise that i didn’t even know how to react but when it finally started to become a reality for me, the only thing i knew for sure was i wanted me and my Husband and our son to enjoy it as a family. When i got pregnant the first time, there was no excitement. I was 18 and still in high school. It was nothing but fear and worry. So i wanted to really enjoy this news this time. We haven’t even announced it yet, but i’m not worried anyone will find it on my blog. Haha, but don’t tell anyone.

It made me realize, everyone is so caught up in our day to day lives. Some of us follow such a schedule or are constantly going and doing, we never stop and take a minute to enjoy the beautiful and wonderful things in life. I needed a break, i needed to be able to enjoy this little secret of ours. I needed to be able to stop and take a minute to thank God for the little things in life we often take for granted. We wake up and go about our day as if there was no chance we could of woken up without a loved one, or without food/water, or whatever it is we think we are granted everyday. Maybe you don’t believe in God, maybe you do. But be thankful, just in general that you woke up today with all the things you went to bed with. I know that, that can be such a cheesy thing to think about, but it’s true. We aren’t guaranteed tomorrow, we aren’t guaranteed next week, so be thankful for everyday you wake up. Because as small as a thing that might seem, you never know when could be your last day or someone you love.

We wake up constantly thinking about our problems, all the things i have to get done, the bills, or at least i do. And i find myself very rarely stopping to just be thankful i woke up today, that i get to stay home with my son and bond with him and watch him grow. That i get to have constant food, and luxuries such as my phone and social media.

We as humans need time to ourselves, it’s so easy to get lost in this society and work, and routines.

So whatever you’re doing tomorrow, or even right now. Take that day to yourself, or maybe just a couple hours to yourself. Do some soul searching. Do what makes you truly happy. Spend time with your family and/or friends. While life is busy and our schedules are important, our mental health is as important as well. Our happiness is what makes our lives so much better. Our humbleness helps us to appreciate more. And our love is what keeps everyone together.

  • Take some day(s) off
  • Spend time with your family and friends
  • Have some ALONE time
  • Be appreciative for the things you have, even if it’s just to yourself
  • Humble yourself
  • Help someone
  • Help the Earth
  • And most importantly LOVE

Do whatever it is that makes you feel human again, that makes you love the life you live and all the amazing people in it. It’s so amazing to find that part of you again!

Balancing Motherhood With Teenage Years???

Most people use this reason as one of the excuses as to why you shouldn’t have children as such a young age. Having a child as a teen is a very difficult thing. Not only are you figuring yourself out and living your life, you are bringing a whole life in to the world as well and it’s not always easy to balance those two things. But just because it is hard doesn’t mean it can’t be done.

When i first found out i was pregnant i stopped doing “teenager” things immediately, i wasn’t hanging out with friends or going out. And some of that reason was because i was so sick. But also, when i became pregnant i got a lot of judgement. My confidence sank and i was just completely upset with myself. I wasn’t completely comfortable going out. When people first found out, i had a lot of congratulations and what not. After it settled in and everyone knew, i lost a lot of friends. I started to see the real side of people. That also really hurt me.

I started relying so much on my boyfriend i really felt like i lost my independence and what made me, me. I lived everyday waiting to go to Dr. appointments for the baby and buying clothes for the baby and eating right for the baby. Allowing my body to change and hurt for the baby. Everything about me, was no longer just about me. And once you start to realize that, you start to understand you are no longer a kid. You are an adult, with real responsibilities. Once that bond began, i no longer cared that i wasn’t living that teen life. Of course i had my bad nights where i would get sad and feel left out. But there was never a time, i felt unloved or unneeded. I never second guess my son. And then after so long in my pregnancy i got so uncomfortable i didn’t or couldn’t do anything anyway.

Right after my son was born was when it became really hard for me and my son’s father to find a good balance. Unfortunately that road was more difficult for us to follow, it had it’s bad turns and up’s and down’s. But after a lot of love, and forgiveness. A lot of compassion and understanding, we finally began to find that middle ground.

It’s hard to give up what everyone else is doing, it’s hard to sit back and accept a life style that is so drastically different from the one you know. But change is enviable, and it will always happen. It’s much easier to accept it with open arms, than trying to fight it. And when you go through something so life changing, such as, having a child. You really start to see the purpose in life. Or at least i did.

So to all my teen parent’s finding it hard to feel like a parent and a teen at the same time. There IS a balance, but it can only be found by YOU. And it’ll only happen properly when you have your priorities in place. Know that no matter what age you are, what you have and haven’t experienced, that your kid(s) should always come first. There will be days for you, but put your kids first.

There is no excuse. And yes, every parent deserves some time to themselves. I would never judge a parent for needing a little break. But take that with caution. I really hope that no matter what changes in the world, that people will stop being so hard on parent’s for wanting or needing a break for themselves. Especially teen parents.