As a young woman, i find i face a lot of uncomfortable issues. I find that many woman face scary situations everyday, whether they be little things or very serious things. Woman of all ages are targeted constantly, and men and children are too. But i can only speak for women, specially young women. Because i am one.

I know everyone faces their own issues, i know there are things men and other people may face that i do not. But i wanted to shed some light on a few things. In our world, in 2019, the amount of awful things that are happening to people of all ages and races is heartbreaking. We are constantly reading about children being kidnapped, women being raped, or people being beaten for no reason and the list goes on. It is truly awful, and what makes it even harder to deal with is, no matter how many laws we have or how many consequences are given out these awful things will never stop happening.

And because of that you always have to stay alert. You always have to be aware of your surroundings, and what is going on. And honestly that sucks. I hate going to the store alone, or with my one year old because i know i have less of a chance to defend myself or my child, than my husband would. I hate driving to far away from town or where i know there will be no service because i don’t want to be stuck somewhere helpless.

As a mother, i am very protective. And as a woman i am so paranoid. I don’t go anywhere without being “checked out” or stared at. The second i see a grown man standing a little to close or maybe starring just a little to long, i immediately get uncomfortable. And honestly that is such a crappy way to feel, almost all the time. I love to be independent. And go shopping by myself or run some errands by myself. But really sometimes, the uncomfortableness of just how awful the world is becoming, ruins that for me. And i could get an uncomfortable vibe from someone, and they could be the sweetest person ever. But in today, it is so hard to not judge by actions, even the little ones. Now when i say judge, i don’t mean i am constantly doing it. When i go out for errands, i normally don’t pay attention to anyone else. But there are some situations it’s almost impossible to not be uncomfortable in.

I don’t want to offend anyone, but sometimes men can be more intimating. Honestly i am more worried about a man, than i would be a woman. Now please acknowledge there are still awful women in the world, women that will and do take advantage of people everyday. But speaking from personal experience, i’ve never had any uncomfortable, creepy situations with a woman but i have with a man.

Like i said earlier, i have never been anywhere that a man hasn’t starred at me or “checked me out” and it is an uncomfortable thing. I’ve dealt with that ever since i was a little girl. Being only 12 years old and being whistled at, or all through my teenage years and even now being catcalled, followed, grabbed. Not being able to wear clothing i wanted to wear because i didn’t want to be starred at. Or i didn’t want to end up a victim. Having to be very careful with the information you give someone. Being scared to share my last name, or my phone number. It’s a scary thing and it is a very uncomfortable thing. I know where you live really makes a difference when it comes to these things, but some people don’t realize it can happen in homes, in schools, at work places you should feel safe are invaded. And it can happen ANYWHERE. I wish i could speak more for the young men that have faced these issues, or the adults or the children. But i can’t, i can only truthfully speak for myself. So know that i am not, ignoring those issues. They are just as important.

I am writing this blog today, something completely different from the stuff i usually talk about because i don’t want people to forget, this is happening. I want the parents of that little girl or boy, to remember the dangers in the world. I am one of those people who hate reading intense headlines, or gory articles because i hate to know these things really are happening. But i also want to be real with myself, and my family by knowing the real dangers and how to prevent them. I hope if you read this whole blog, it helped or maybe awoken a perception you didn’t have before. I hope you be more careful with yourself, your family and your kids. It can really help to recognize an uncomfortable situation before it becomes much more than that.